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581 days ago
Ok I know most of the time we want to be pretty and it work to your advantage. You get to skip the que to get into a club, and can instead walk the red carpet. You get free drinks, help carrying heavy stuff and get take on the most adventurous dates by men you hardly know. However being pretty, has its disadvantages too. Like the old lady at the post office today who was so angry at me, and seriously had never heard of the word customser service. Or the librarian the other day who had a go at me for standing talking in the little phoneboot they have for talking in the library, I mean they have a pay phone there for the purpose. Still she told me not to talk. Ok You may think this is just me being sensitive but it isnt, and I will prove it to you. First of all it is only women, the older the bitter, who treat me badly. Secondly I am a nice person who smile and the people at the post room know me by name and stop to talk to me, and the librarians checking our bags ...
583 days ago
Creepy guy Ok we all have different perceptions of what is unacceptable social behaviour, depending on our culture, norms and values. As it in certain African countries are natural to touch women’s bottoms or breasts even in front of adults or authoritative figures. However I do believe most of us, especially in the West share a common ground of what is acceptable and what is crossing the line. This can of course be supported by further inquiry with others of a certain instant when such an issue occurs. As such I believe it is fair to say, that at times we come across others who see the world through a different set of values, and who does not understand these limits. For this reason there are those who wrongly, come to hold prejudice against whole groups of people, due to clashes of values and norms. As such there are misunderstandings between Muslims and Christians, between Arabs and Africans, between old and young. Although these should be ...
583 days ago
It has recently occured to me that I have a type, a specific set of criteria which appeals to me as far as men are concerned. Of course this is nothing new. However I have begun to question if this is a positive or negative thing, especially when I realise my ex boyfriends have a lot in common with one another. I suppose it is a concern over not being open minded enough or that I unconciously still want one of my ex's. I do not want to like someone because they remind me of someone else, I do not want someone who isnt an individual human being. More than anything else, I dont want to fall for men with the same flaws as the former. Because not only would that be destructive, as I would end up ruined once more, but also because it would mean that I am uncapable of learning from my mistakes. In that sense I suppose having a type is both positive and negative. I know what I fall for, and I know what I should avoid. I know that a sporty guy, who shares some of my ...
657 days ago
Right now it is like my dream has turned into a nightmare, where nothing is as it should. I have this perfect guy. He is everything I could ask for; I could tick off every box in the questionnaire. We share a common interest in politics, he is intelligent and intellectual, he is sporty, he can cook and he has a healthy relationship to his mother. Most importantly he treats me like a princess. Reliable, committed, romantic and caring. Sends me flowers, tuck me in when he thinks I am asleep, give me cute kisses on my nose, call me to say goodnight and send me cute text messages to let me know he is thinking of me. He is even willing to plan a “we” 6 months from now. There is in short nothing I can complain about, this guy is the sweetest thing ever. I ended up sitting complaining to my girlfriend of how he was “too much of a nice guy”. People turned around and looked at e like I was some lunatic, who did not understand how rare it was to find a good guy. It is not that I do ...
715 days ago
So I am single, it’s been a week on the hour. What is it that scares me so much with that concept of being single? It did not use to, but now standing on my own two feet all alone is frightening and shameful. Hence I am reliving a relationship that I no longer wish to regain, which is completely irrational. From two of my friends during the course of the evening, I realised the dimension of compromise that surrounds us. I see all these couples, functioning relationships, wanted people and love. It hurts. It makes me feel like a failure. As if I am worth less for not managing to convince myself or my partner that I can settle for second best The truth is I cannot compromise myself for others, not concerning my needs and the basic things necessary for my happiness. Putting my self value first, as a consequence means putting a relationship second. This is where I believe people differ. As my lovely friends openly admitted they consider a relationship essential for their ...
